The Mediator will meet with both husband and wife in order to identify the issues that require mediating and also to establish whether you are both ready to mediate. This can been done in a Mediation assessment meeting which should take no longer than 30 minutes. The Mediator can address any concerns or queries that you have concerning Family Mediation during this meeting. If you decide that Family Mediation is not for you, then the mediator will give you an outline of the court proceedings that can be issued and will sign a Certificate for you that will be required by the court if you decide to make an application for the court to deal with matters on your behalf. There is however a £90 fee for this Certificate.
If you decide that Family Mediation is for you the whole process is confidential. Both parties are involved in discussions throughout and the timescale and outcome is governed by your individual requirements. Further meetings will be arranged during which you can work on improving communication issues, make arrangements that ensure both children are spending time with each parent and also exchange financial information in order that financial issues can be addressed The mediator is completely impartial and will not take sides. The Mediator cannot not provide either person with legal advice. It may therefore be necessary for you to see a lawyer between mediation sessions or at the end of the process in order that any agreements can be turned into a legally binding document which may then be implemented.
Mediation helps to keep costs to a minimum, allowing you to maintain control of your future rather than being told what to do by a District Judge, which is often the case in the traditional court-based process.
Have a look a the video below which will give you an overview of how mediation works.